Why do relationships become painful?

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When we want more, or when we lack it, then love hurts. Losing a relationship can be extremely painful. Relationship, or love, is so important that it is the thing couples fight about the most.

This happens in every small thing. Like we are watching a show. My partner is saying, "Wait, I want to see what this is about" and I keep scrolling, ignoring his quote, that seed of conflict has been sown. Alternatively, when I ask if we can go sightseeing this weekend and my spouse either says yes, and does not follow through, or says “sightseeing!" You know I hate going out unnecessarily!

Being aware of how we create communications to connect with each other and paying attention to whether we are following through. Because it has been a while. Alternatively, even "I would love to, but because of the craziness at work I'm not up to it. Can we find another way to spend time together, and we can do it another weekend? Can we plan to do something new? Alternatively, moving away or resisting is a very important way in which we can reduce the pain that comes with love.

The pain that comes with love is that love demands growth. In addition, growth is challenging to say the least, and often painful. Love demands that we become our better self, rising above our inherent selfishness and doing what is best for our loved one or the relationship. Love invites us to overcome our weaknesses and have courage beyond where we are comfortable. If we accept the invitation, we become a whole person than we were before. However, we have to pay some price for this. “It's about sacrificing something good for something better.” In relationships, this is especially true.



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